About

I am learning to love my wife like Jesus. This site is my journal of that journey - a place to practice humble leadership, steady service, and daily repentance. If you are a husband who wants to lead with Christlike love, you are in the right place.

Why this exists

So many voices tell men to measure life by money, status, or control. The gospel calls us to something better. Jesus loved by serving. He led by laying His life down. I want to follow that path in my home.

Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
~ Ephesians 5:25 (NIV)

What you will find here

• Biblical articles for husbands - Clear teaching with practical next steps
• Simple practices - Small acts of service that build trust over time
• Prayer helps - Short prayers and Scripture to use when words are hard
• Honest reflections - Lessons learned in real marriage, not theory

What I believe about marriage

• Covenant, not contract - We belong to the Lord and to each other
• Headship as service - Leadership looks like washing feet, not winning fights (John 13:14-15)
• Mutual honor - We submit to one another in Christ (Ephesians 5:21)
• Growth through grace - God uses marriage to shape us into the likeness of Jesus
• Contentment in Christ - Peace does not come from success but from trust (Philippians 4:11-13)

My story

I am a husband, dad, and follower of Jesus who works in software. For years I chased productivity and outcomes. It left me tired and hard to live with. The Lord has been teaching me a quieter strength - to repent quickly, to serve faithfully, and to seek unity over being right. This site gathers what I am learning from Scripture and from my daily walk.

What I can promise you

• Plain words - No hype, no hot takes
• Scripture first - God’s Word sets the direction
• Practical help - Things you can try tonight after dinner
• No selling - I am not here to monetize your pain

I am not a counselor or pastor. If you need help, please talk to your local church and a trusted Christian counselor. I cheer you on as you take that step.

Start here

• When Masculinity Misses the Mark
• Two Become One
• When Love Feels One-Sided
• Prayers for Your Wife

If any of this serves you, share a post with a friend and pray for your marriage today. Small acts in faith matter.

Elsewhere

I write about my professional work at kevinkurkowski.com.

Feedback and Questions

I welcome respectful, Christ centered feedback. If you have a question about something written here or want to share a thoughtful correction, you can use the form below.

Please note that I cannot offer counseling or respond to specific marriage situations, but I value learning from the body of Christ.